I've been doing a combination of the natural method, backcombing, and twisting and ripping...and i know that dreads don't just up and lock up overnight. But every time i wash my hair most of it just falls out again! I use a veggie glycerin soap- which i just found out has added saponified coconut oil (someone on another board i joined mentioned that saponified coconut oil is another name for sodium laureth sulfate- the stuff that helps keep your hair "shiny" in regular shampoos)... i'm really mad at myself for not catching that, and i'll be going to a regular ol' clear glycerin bar shortly...
but until then i'm becoming more and more disheartened. I know this is a looonnnnng process but i almost believe my hair will never lock up naturally on its' own, or even by using the methods i've already tried. Every time i wash my hir about 90% of my efforts are lost. I do wash it every day, or every other day, depending, so i know that in and of itself isn't helping things along. It's fine, very very very straight, super slippery (naturally) hair. And it is a bit onthe short side, the shortest lengths are just about to my chin now, i think, undreaded.
As it is right now i've got a few fairly decent mats in my hair but i can see it's going to be pretty painful to separate them so i don't have just a bunch of matted hair. I've separated a few of the mats but they keep trying to rejoin and i haven't quite found a solution for that yet. John (who had dreads using the neglect method for 4-5 years) keeps telling me to just leave my head alone and once a month he'll help me separate what needs to be separated. talk about a test of my WILL. lol
i just can't seem to make my mind up about what to do. I definitely am not quitting... i just can't decide if i should try to seek out someone to assist me (i'm most interested in the crocheting method) or just... let it be. lol. I'd love to just let it be...
and maybe i should, i definitely need a strong lesson in patience and to learn to curb my impulsive side. *sigh* i guess this was more of a "i'm talking just to talk, don't mind me" post... It's definitely opening my eyes to a lot of things in my life. How in the hell does dreading ones hair become such a life-changing thing? you ask... it just does. I can't describe or really get into details here right now, but it is definitely forcing me to see alot of stuff about myself and my life that most of the time i refuse to see because its not a pleasant aspect of me or my life.
hmmm.
Monday, May 18, 2009
A look into the Journey
Posted by SarahPlainAndTall at 1:23 PM
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i would give yourself a time limit. if its not locked in a month or two, then you will seek a pro. that way the pressure is off.
enjoy the process...don't feel pressured...but give yourself a way out if you need it.
Have you ever thought about why you want something so badly that just doesn't come naturally to you? I always wanted one of those cute edgy haircuts, but I have naturally curly hair. Eventually I just gave in, and gave up to the knowledge that I was given this hair for a reason. So I'd better rock what I got.
Just a thought. :smooch
Actually I was thinking what Rachel said. I fought my incredibly curly and thick (and frizzy...ugh) hair for most of my life, and when I got a short cut that lets it curl natually it was much better and never a frizz since. I wish I had stopped trying to make my hair straight or slick years ago..it just isn't, kwim?
I hope they work for you if that is what you really want, but I wonder if the struggle to make your body do something it doesn't want to do is as much a part of the learning curve as the patience idea? good luck to you!:)
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